Dear Friend

Have you ever noticed what happens when you keep putting off a decision?
It starts as one small thing, something simple—a phone call you haven’t made, a form you haven’t filled out, a choice you keep circling but can’t seem to land. And then, almost without realising, everything else begins to feel… stuck.

It’s like life gets backed up.
Like a beaver’s built a dam across your inner stream.
And the water—the energy, the clarity, the movement—just stops.

What’s strange is that the decision you’re avoiding might have nothing to do with the rest of your life. And yet somehow, it touches everything. That’s the thing about decisions: they don’t just clear our to-do list—they clear our energy. They open the gates and let life move through us again.

Part of why indecision feels so heavy is because it creates mental clutter. When you’re stuck circling the same question without an answer, your mind can pull you down a rabbit hole—replaying options, weighing pros and cons, spiraling into “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios. It’s like having a bunch of unopened mail piling up on your desk—those unanswered questions take up mental space, distract your focus, and drain your energy. Over time, that clutter can build into anxiety, stress, and overwhelm, making it even harder to move forward.

The perfect physical example? Decluttering your home.
When you don’t make decisions about what to keep or let go of, the clutter builds up. It starts taking over walkways, surfaces, corners. Before you know it, you’re manoeuvring around things just to get from one room to another. Life starts to feel like an obstacle course. But when the clutter is cleared—when the choices are made—suddenly there’s space. Breathing room. Flow.

It’s the same on the inside.

I didn’t always struggle with this. But something changed after I became a mother. After my first baby, it was like a switch was flicked in my brain. The sharpness I’d once relied on dulled. I found myself second-guessing things I never used to think twice about. Grocery shopping became its own mini-drama. Even with a list, the options felt overwhelming. My brain would spiral—peanut butter or almond? Organic or not? Which one’s on sale? Which one won’t make me question everything I know about nutrition and parenting?

I laugh about it now, but it didn’t feel funny then.
It felt like being tangled in invisible threads.
Anxiety. Overthinking. The pressure to get everything right.

I’ve come to realise that not deciding is still a decision.
It’s choosing to stay in limbo.
And limbo, while sometimes necessary, rarely brings peace for long.

There are times when we genuinely need to pause—when a decision needs space and time to settle in before we move. There’s wisdom in that. But there’s also a point where waiting becomes hiding. When “giving it time” quietly becomes “hoping it’ll go away.”

And that’s when things begin to feel heavy.
When the path narrows.
When unmade choices start to clutter the hallways of your mind.

I’m slowly learning to notice that feeling now.
To sense when I’ve overstayed in the in-between.

And I’m learning to flow again. Not perfectly. Not all at once. Just one small decision at a time. But with a quiet trust that I can choose. That I can create space again. That the water knows how to flow—if I’ll let it.

One thing that helps is thinking about alignment.
Is this decision in harmony with your core values and bigger vision for your life? Sometimes that vision feels clear—like a bright beacon guiding your way. Other times, it’s fuzzy, or feels just out of reach. And that’s okay.

We don’t always know what’s best right away. Sometimes making decisions means learning as we go, trusting that each choice, even the imperfect ones, teach us more about what feels right.

Slowly, step by step, your inner compass sharpens. Your vision grows clearer. And your decisions start to feel less like a struggle and more like a gentle unfolding.

So if you’re feeling stuck, remember: you don’t have to have all the answers now. Just keep moving. Keep choosing. Keep trusting your own unfolding story.

Pick something. Choose something. Even one small thing.
Let the energy move. Let the space return.

You might be surprised at what clears when you do.

May your decision be decisive, your energy be flowing, and your hallway be free of tripping hazards.
Until next time,
Gwen x

P.S. A little journaling moment:

Take your time with these reflections—there’s no rush. Every insight, no matter how small, is a step toward clearer choices, inner peace and a freer flow.

Find a quiet place and take a deep breathe and exhale, consider...

• What area of my life feels stuck right now, and what decision am I avoiding there?
  Even small choices can feel overwhelming when we’re unsure or emotionally tangled. Start by naming where the tension lives.

• What emotions come up when I think about making this decision?
  Sometimes it’s not the decision itself, but the fear, pressure, or doubt underneath that keeps us circling. Let this be a space to gently name what’s there.

• What is this stuckness trying to protect me from—or reveal to me?
  Hesitation is often a quiet form of self-protection. What might your overthinking or delay be trying to shield you from? What deeper truth is asking to be seen?

• What does an aligned decision feel like in my body?
  Think back to a time when you made a decision that felt right. How did your body respond? What inner signals can you begin to trust again?

• What kind of life do I truly want to create—and does this decision move me closer to it or further away?

• If I made this decision today, what might life begin to look and feel like?
  Imagine the best-case scenario—not perfection, but ease, flow, or relief. Let yourself explore what becomes possible when the energy moves again.

Remember decision-making is a muscle. Meet yourself with compassion. The more we use it—especially in small, everyday ways—the more natural it starts to feel. Bit by bit, we build confidence, clarity, and trust in ourselves.

EXTRA BIT
I love this you tube clip from Rich Roll and Ellen Langer (professor of psychology).

I came across this discussion that captures this perfectly — it reminds us that sometimes the space between deciding and waiting isn’t about hesitation or fear, but about honoring the uncertainty and trusting the process. If you want a moment of calm reflection on what it means to choose and to live with the unknown, I highly recommend this short piece here. It’s like a little breath for your busy mind.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hxoZM9hFi2w

Enjoy Beautiful 😏



Updated June 2025